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Safe House~Free Reading & Fireside Chat!

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I love chatting with readers. Recently, a reader invited me to speak to their local congregation in Utah. Because of Covid-I am doing the next best thing. I am reading Safe House and sharing what I’ve learned about supporting survivors after each chapter. Here is a link to my YouTube Channel and Safe House Reading and Fireside Chat Playlist.

Do you know someone who has experienced intimate partner violence (domestic violence)? Do you work with survivors, have family or friends who are survivors? Are you a survivor and your connections don’t understand or support you? Have people given you unwelcome advice, like why don’t you just leave? Send me your questions and concerns. Let’s chat after each chapter.

Safe House by Shannon Symonds

Welcome to the free video reading of Safe House, published by Cedar Fort Publishers. I thought it would be fun to read my first book to you while sharing the beauty of the Pacific coast or the settings for Safe House, Finding Hope, and my upcoming novels.

After I read the chapters, I will tell you a little about what inspired them. Feel free to end the video before the chat. I know how busy life can be!

Special thanks to Cedar Fort Publishers–Safe House can be purchased at Cedar Fort & Amazon and is free on Kindle Unlimited.

Cedar Fort will be publishing my Cozy Mystery in May of 2021! That’s the wonderful news. But… it will take time…
More as it develops!

In the meantime- Enjoy this BookFunnel!

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Today! Authors For Freedom!

TODAY! 85 AUTHORS FOR FREEDOM-have books for you!

Buy a book and all profits are donated to Operation Underground Railroad (O.U.R.) to rescue children from child human trafficking.

Go to the Authors For Freedom Landing page AND

https://my.ourrescue.org/fundraisers/authors-for-freedom

Right click on the name and check out the lists of amazing books.

#authorsforfreedom #ourrescue
Romance:

Clarissa Kae

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Safe House Chapter 3 & 4 and Free First Responder Reads

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Welcome to the free video reading of Safe House, published by Cedar Fort Publishers. I thought it would be fun to read my first book to you while sharing the beauty of the Pacific coast or the settings for Safe House, Finding Hope, and my upcoming novels. I also share what inspired the novel. I made this video two miles from my house on the Tillamook Head Trail my family hikes annually. It is six miles of Oregon Forest and ends in Ecola Park just outside Cannon Beach.

Today, I added a reading of chapters 3 & 4 of Safe House. I will add new chapters to to my Tuesday and Thursday newsletters.  I promise not to spam you!

After I read the chapters, I will tell you a little about what inspired them. Feel free to end the video before the chat. I know how busy life can be!

Safe House Chapter 1 & 2 by Shannon Symonds
Safe House Chapter 3 & 4 by Shannon Symonds

Here is another game! The 4th person to reply to this newsletter will receive a $5 Amazon gift card.
🙂 Shannon

Special thanks to Cedar Fort Publishers–Safe House can be purchased at Cedar Fort & Amazon.

LINK TO FREE EBOOKS

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Safe House by Shannon Symonds ~ Chapter 1 & 2

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Hello from the beach!

Welcome to the first free video reading of Safe House, published by Cedar Fort Publishers. I thought it would be fun to read my first book to you while sharing the beauty of the Pacific coast or the settings for Safe House, Finding Hope, and my upcoming novels. I made this video down the street from my home.

I will add a few chapters to my Tuesday and Thursday newsletters.  I promise not to spam you!

After I read the chapters, I will tell you a little about what inspired them. Feel free to end the video before the chat. I know how busy life can be!

Safe House Chapter 1 & 2 by Shannon Symonds

Special thanks to Cedar Fort Publishers–Safe House can be purchased at Cedar Fort & Amazon.
Safe House-Paperback Edition

National Domestic Violence Hotline Phone Number

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Our Pandemic Bingo Card & Blessing Card~Free Read by Kierstin Marquet

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Hello from the beach!
I hope you and everyone you care about is well. I’ve finished the first two books in my new series. Book three is underway. We are still sheltering in due to Covid-19. Books (writing and reading) are our only form of escape.

I am excited to share Kierstin Marquet’s book, Shattered Lives. Read on, get your free copy, and meet an author I am learning to love.

LINK TO FREE COPY

On January 1st, 2020, I chose one goal. I was going to go into this year with fearless faith and hope.

You might be laughing right now. My extended  (huge) family has laughed about winning Pandemic Bingo. So far we have experienced:

  • Job loss
  • Major illness diagnosed in our immediate family
  • Earthquake
  • A kidney patient in complete quarantine
  • A tree falling on two vehicles and the roof
  • The great chicken massacre of 2020
  • Business closed
  • Protests and riots about issues we really care about and impacting people we love
  • Murder hornets in the neighborhood
  • Homeschool chaos
  • First responders still at work in health care and law enforcement
  • Sewing hundreds of masks for first responders and family
  • Babies born during a pandemic
  • All travel canceled
  • Feeling like we are personally supporting Costco by hoarding food, Lysol, and toilet paper
  • Cutting–no–butchering our own hair
  • But so far, we are well and grateful to God for that blessing. All the experiences on our Pandemic Bingo cards have
  • only brought us closer together. We met each fresh challenge on our knees.

When my future was as clear as mud, time, and time again, I went forward with fearless faith. Either I should be careful for what I pray for–or grateful the Lord inspired and prepared me.

On those big days—those life-altering moments–I recited a scripture my sister taught me after she learned she was dying of cancer.

I am guessing you have your own bingo card. But, do you have a blessings card? Through it all, we have experienced so many blessings.

  • Financial miracles allowing me to write a new series of books
  • Staying close to family than ever before through video chat
  • Watching my adult children support each other because our family is all we have
  • Home church with extended family
  • After praying for years, we received direct answers and blessings
  • Feeling closer to God and grateful for the good things
  • Daily tender mercies from Heaven

I would love to hear how you are doing. I read every comment.

🙂 Shannon

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Cedar Fort Publisher’s Podcast! ~ Shannon Symonds

Listen to Valerie Loveless interview me about both of my books, Safe House & Finding Hope, on Cedar Fort's Behind the Scenes Podcast!

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Answers in the Storm

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Have you ever wearied the Lord in prayer and wondered when he would answer your prayer, or if he would answer? Have those answers come in unexpected ways? I know I have. I have wanted more time for family and writing. I think I have my answer and it will mean more time to write.

I love to write stories about characters that have deep needs, face insurmountable odds, are tried during the storms of life, face destruction, and still find their happy ending. I write about unexpected heroes and heroines, who after the storm is over, realize the hand of God was at work the entire time. And the events they thought would annihilate them were actually the best thing that ever happened to them.

Why do I love to write stories about people who face impossible odds? Because that is the ongoing story in my life, and I would bet a few of you have been caught in the rain before. But I believe in miracles and I believe in happy endings, so here we go! New job and more writing.

Today, I found one more survivor. This afternoon, the sun was out, and I worked in the garden. I weeded and pulled out the plants that hadn’t made it through the wild coastal winter months. We have had snow, fierce winds, and record rainfalls. I opened the gate to put my tools away in the backyard and look what I found. While everything else turned brown and withered, this beautiful little plant flowered through the dark winter months on the north side of the house. It blossomed against all odds, just like the heroines of my stories.

A few weeks ago, I was asked to speak on Hope in church, while I was praying and working on making more space for family and writing. It was a great opportunity to explore one of my favorite words-hope.

More on hope later-for now, here is one of my favorite quotes:

 

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Happy Birthday to Me!

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In honor of my 29th birthday, Cedar Fort and I are giving away copies of my books on Kindle between January 7th and 11th, 2020!

Don’t forget to enter the Goodreads Giveaway!

Goodreads Book Giveaway

Finding Hope by Shannon Symonds

Finding Hope

by Shannon Symonds

Giveaway ends January 08, 2020.

See the giveaway details
at Goodreads.

Enter Giveaway

But, if you entered the Goodreads giveaway and didn’t win, you can check out:

Shannon Symonds, Author Page!- All my books are FREE on Kindle between January 7-11, 2020

Thank you for being a part of 2019, a great year. May 2020 be a year of reading, fun, and personal growth for you and yours.

You can also win, Finding Hope, and, Safe House, by joining the Storytellers in Zion Polar Bear Plunge Reading Challenge. Join the fun HERE!

Here are the rules:

1. Anyone can participate as a reader. They do not have to be LDS to play and win.
2. Although these are books by LDS authors, few of them actually have LDS content. **My books are Christian (LDS) Fiction”
3. Minimum books required to read: 1.
4. Readers can join any time—even if it’s the last day of the challenge.

#findinghopebyshannonsymonds #novel #cleanread #suspense

#romance #mysterythriller #safehousebyshannonsymonds #cedarfortauthor #giveaway #contest

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Why I went BACK to Church OR People Say the Darndest Things!

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I will never forget the moment I realized that everything I believed about my sweet life was wrong and that I needed to leave behind my marriage, my adorable little home, and essentially everything I was or thought I was. I stood in a therapist’s office on the phone. I was calling my mother to ask her to watch my children overnight so I could go home for the last time and pack to leave my innocence and shattered hopes. The conversation went something like this…

“Hi Mom. Can you keep the girls one more night?”

“How long is this going to take, Shannon? I have a lot of things to do.”

“An eternity, mom.”

The line was silent. She knew where I was. She knew what I meant.

At that moment in time, more than anything on earth, all I needed was someone to hold me and tell me we would be okay. That we might be homeless and helpless, but that they would be there for us and that our Heavenly Father, the Savior, and the Holy Ghost would never, ever, leave our side. But that isn’t what happened.

Heaven will forever bless my family. Even though my parents had their hands full, they made room for us. And may God forever bless the members of my mother’s church, who knew me as a young woman, and never doubted me or my decisions.

But, may Heaven forgive the people at church who said the darndest things.

I wish I could say that my experience of having people at church make unbelievable statements is rare. It isn’t. Survivors of domestic abuse, infidelity, spousal addiction, and those of us who struggle to keep difficult marriages together, and all the other things life throws at us, have heard it all.

Have you ever said something to someone at church and regretted it? I know I have. Do you wonder what to say to your fellow church members who are struggling with challenges like mine? Or do you wonder why people care so much about what other people say? Shouldn’t we just buck up, get over it, and do what is right?

Five months into my divorce, I rented a house and began attending church in a new town. They had all seen the single mother and her five small children move in. From the moment I crossed the threshold at the neighborhood church, people said the darndest things. Here is a short list:

“Have you ever been to church before?”

“I heard you’re divorced. There are two sides to every story.”

“I think people should try harder.”

“You should go home and put your marriage together as God intended.”

And, “Why did you marry him? There are always signs. You should have known.”

Gradually I stopped talking to people. Eventually,  I would randomly go to my mother’s church. At one point, I stopped talking to anyone at all except a kind neighbor and my family. Then, to avoid a complete mental breakdown, I began hiring a sitter so I could run once a day because my therapist said it would help.

My sweet father held a garage sale so he could buy me very expensive Nike running shoes and the best in Nike running gear for the over one hundred degree summer temperatures. One of the local clergy said a prayer in a meeting, and in the prayer blessed that I would stop running through town in shorts (honestly. I would have laughed if I wasn’t so concerned for the clergy’s mental health).

I am tough. In fact, I have pretty thick skin. The topper will not be repeated here. Suffice it to say, I left  the church and didn’t return for more than a year.

I wish I could say I was alone. Recently, I have spoken to several women who are struggling with the things family, friends, and church members are saying to them at their most vulnerable moments.

I had come to church, bruised, beaten, broken to fill my soul and find connection and sisterhood. I had found something I would learn later was, “Victim Blaming.”

We have all done it. We have seen a couple in our little church get divorced. It rocks us. We look at them and wonder what happened. We think things like, if it happened to them, could it happen to me? They seemed so perfect.

Then, out of fear, we look for ways we are different. We think and actually say things to each other like, “It happened to them because he drinks. We don’t drink so it can’t happen to us. I would have left him too, the poor Alcoholic.” or worse, “Of course he cheated on her. Have you seen how she treats him or keeps house?”

We are engaging in typical victim blaming. It is more obvious, when we examine situations containing abuse. It is easier to see when people say things like, “She was sexually assaulted because of how she dressed.” She was sexually assaulted because the perpetrator made the choice to assault her. Only one person is responsible. The person who hurt her.

Victim blaming is how we make sense of our world. If random abuse can happen to people due to other’s random agency or choices, then we might get hurt. But, if we can find the reason it happened to “someone else” we can exclude ourselves from harm. We look for the difference between us and them, because it is like looking for Dumbo’s magic feather.

As survivors, we are already looking for a way it is our fault. It is our fault because we are loud, fat, or made bad choices. Just like others, who victim blame, we are desperately seeking a way to make sense of the senseless.

Here is what Elise Lopez, a researcher said in DomesticViolence.org’s article, Why We Blame Victims for Domestic Violence: 

“Why do some people jump to blame the victim? At its core,…victim-blaming is about self-preservation.

Compare these reactions to how some people respond to seeing a photo of an overweight person, says Lopez. “People think, ‘If I were overweight, I’d go to the gym every day and I would lose that weight.’ They don’t think about how hard that would be,” she says. …They think if somebody is being abused, they probably did something to incite it.” In essence, if people can find a reason why abuse is the victim’s fault, then abuse is something that can not only be controlled but prevented. And, in turn, it won’t happen to them.”

So, what do you say to people whose lives are falling apart?

Speak honestly, from the heart. You don’t understand. You can’t, unless you have lived their life. Only one person understands, the Savior. Avoid judgment. Try to be a judgement free and shame free friend. Leave the judgment to the Savior.

Things to say to domestic violence or sexual assault survivors:

  1. I am glad you survived.
  2. It isn’t your fault.
  3. Whatever decision you make, I will support you. I know you know what is best for you.
  4. I may not know how you feel,  but I am here to (list anything you are willing to offer including time, provide service, be a friend, always be by their side).
  5. Listen (No words necessary).

We all have friends who are making serious decisions or engaged in heartbreaking challenges. LDS Living’s article, The LDS Divorce Experience talks about members of the Church of Jesus Christ  of Latter-Day Saints. They share statistics which show prior to divorce nine percent of those surveyed were less active and eight percent were not attending church. After, six percent occasionally went, eight percent had a short period away (that was me), six percent stopped going, and then two percent increased their activity.

Interestingly, even though I was too tender to deal with the looks, the words, the strange things people said, I personally felt an increase of the spirit. Although, I was wrestling with who I was and how I wanted to live; I prayed more, read my scriptures more, and felt the sweet peace of the Savior’s love for me in miracle after miracle. I admire the two percent who increased their activity and developed the ability to seek what they needed to connect and heal. Maybe, because I write, words mattered too much to me.

During the years I was putting my life back together, I develop compassion for people who struggle. I gradually got my feet back underneath me. I was not only running for sanity; I was running towards the Savior. I experienced the mightiest miracles during my darkest times.

While I was still inactive, I was blessed to have the rare opportunity to meet with an Apostle in my church, President James E. Faust. President Faust spent an hour asking me about my experience as a sister in the church during my trials. At the end of the meeting, he very gently asked me why I was inactive. I shared the things that had been said and transpired. He was straightforward and honest in his opinion. he was compassionate and caring.

He said the darndest thing. “Why aren’t you active?” Four little words said with love and compassion, a listening ear, and an honest response.

That was it. I went back.

People say the darndest things. Things like, “I love you,” or “I don’t care what you choose, I will be here for you.”

“The reality is, the depth of our relationships is correlated to the time in which we’re willing to spend together. It’s marked by our honesty and vulnerability with one another, by the things we have in common, and in our service to one another.” MultiplyGoodness.com

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My Interview on the Valerie Loveless Podcast

It was my privilege to be a guest on Valerie Loveless's podcast! Valerie is an author and a world changer. Learn ways to support survivors, tips for keeping teens safe, and why I love Oregon's services for survivors. Hear about  Safe House, and my next novel with the same characters and setting, FINDING HOPE.

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